26 Feb Kids, extended families and friends
How important is it to maintain kids’ relationships with extended family and friends?
It is very important to maintain kid’s relationships with the extended family, especially grandparents, uncles, aunties and cousins.
Remember that the only certainty kids have at this point is the love of their grandparents and other relatives, so it is crucial that you make an effort to ensure that the children spend time with these important people in your kids’ lives.
Friends are also very important at this time. The kids can talk to them, play and be distracted even for a few hours.
Try to maintain some activities of their routine and adjust others progressively, not immediately.
The best agreements I see in my practice are the ones where the parents make a big effort to try to maintain the routine and activities of their children. The parents are the ones who make big adjustments in attending sport events, school plays, picking them up from school, etc.
I heard a story once of a young child whose parents were separating and he told them: “I don’t want to be inconvenienced in any way, you are the ones getting divorced so you make the changes, not me”. This child was mature beyond his years.
© Delcy Lagones de Anglim,2012
Disclaimer: These views are not to be taken as advice, only as a general guide. Should you require specific advice, please contact us or your own psychologist or counsellor.